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Showing posts with label book review. Show all posts

Book Review: How To Stop Time

Living in the twenty-first century, moreover with this era of digital, makes time feels running so fast. In a meantime, suddenly you feel old. You feel like you haven't done enough and experienced enough of a moment or of a place, because there is just not much time.

“The longer you live, the harder it becomes. To grab them. Each little moment as it arrives. To be living in something other than the past or the future. To be actually here.”

Upon looking at the book title and synopsis, I felt intrigued to read it. The story is about Tom Hazard, a guy who has an anageria syndrome and is 437 years old. Tom spends most of his centuries life time on a quest in search around the world of his and his love Rose's daughter named Marion, who inherited the same ageing syndrome. They were separated around 400 years ago, Tom believes that Marion is still alive and keeps looking for her.

After living life for centuries with difficulty due to people's judgement over the syndrome, Tom gets a help from Hendrich, the leader of Albatross Society, a secret society to protect the lives of albas. An alba - using the same name of a bird species who has longer life compare to most bird species - is a human species who has the anageria syndrome. Tom joins the society, which means he has to follow the rules: to change self identity and move out from a place every 8 years and to not fall in love. These rules are made in order to cover and protect himself and the members of the society. After the long search, Tom finally meets his daughter, but Hendrich - who is overly paranoid of possible threats to albas existence - betrays Tom, which later makes Tom realizes that what he always wanted to do is to live his life again; an ordinary life where he could be himself and fall in love.

The albas in the story have many identities throughout their life time, for instance during his 400 years time, Estienne Thomas Ambroise Hazard had been known as Tom Smith, Edward Cribb, Tom Winters, and the current one is Tom Hazard the history teacher. He had moved many times from one place to another. I like the idea of it, which must have made one feels almost like a nomad. And of course; the idea of being anonymous in public, while at the same time knowing about almost everything history wise. But having many self identities must really be exhausting for one in a long term. As a human, you have a tendency to be recognised as who you really are, can freely do what you want.

The interesting thing about the story is that it is told as a series of history flashbacks from centuries ago that feels almost like a time-travel. The character even had acquaintance with Scott Fitzgerald, worked together with Shakespeare, had a dinner with Charlie Chaplin, and even went on a voyage with captain James Cook.

Another interesting bit of the story is the society's rules. One of the rules is not to fall in love; which means not to have attachment. Love is what makes you want to stay and gives the possibility to settle. The context of love in the story is a human relationship kind of love, but in a wider term; it could always be something universal. A love of food, of a place, or simply a love of an air, and of a moment; can be a reason for you to want to be you and experience the love as yourself; not wanting to become someone else or go somewhere else. Love gives purpose or meaning to life, and therefore stops time.

“History was - is - a one-way street. You have to keep walking forwards. But you don't always need to look ahead. Sometimes you can just look around and be happy right where you are.”

Human tends to have fear of the future, therefore becoming anxious about the present and almost always constantly mourned about the past. You won't really experience and do your best while being yourself in the present, if you keep having a battle in your head about the stuffs that had gone and the things that are about to come. To be human means to be part of time and respect the time by living life; one that has a meaning and purpose.

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Book Review: Where'd You Go, Bernadette

Visited a local charity shop nearby last year and saw the book in the corner. I didn’t notice till I found the cover a bit catchy (yes; I judge a book by its cover) and then read the synopsis on the back. The story seemed to be funny and interesting, moreover it mentioned about the profession 'architect'. Without thinking twice, I gave it a shot.

Bernadette Fox was an extraordinary lady architect - who feels like a failure after her architecture masterpiece got destroyed by a rich neighbour with bulldozers. She decides to move with her husband to live a new life in Seattle. But it doesn't end there: she stops doing architecture, she has miscarriages, and when she finally has a child - now is a 15 years-old daughter Bee - the child is prone to serious health problem, the city and its people doesn't seem to fit her, and later her husband Elgie Branch cheats on her. Because of her certain super silly circumstances (her careless frequent correspondence with a virtual assistant who is actually a Russian mafia, her accidental mud flood on her neighbour house, and other silly things); people - including her husband - think that she is mentally ill and she needs treatment.

Therefore, she escapes. She runs away, nobody knows where she is. Bee and Elgie try to find her everywhere, and finally find her in Antarctica; where she contemplates about her life. At the end of the story; she finds her balance and becomes uplifted as she suddenly been assigned to design a new station in the South Pole; a project that intrigues her and makes her feel very challenged on doing; which made her move forward and think positively about her life in this absurd world once again.

It basically tells the reader on how to be a parent; especially a mother. There would truly be ups and downs in life; the joy that people will experience once they become parents. Things in life won't always go perfectly, and it is nice to have people who understand. Other people would never understand us as deeply as a family would do. There might be a time when we think that our life is a failure, but if we got family with us (in this case a child or parents; the ones who will stand by our side and believe in us, and of course will try to find us when we're gone!); it is enough. Though, sometimes there is also this ironic case where even our closest person in the family doesn't understand much nor put trust in us. It wouldn't hurt to give them a chance and to have a little faith in them, right?

Everyone needs a break: and everyone goes with it in their very own way. In their own time. It is only natural to do, especially when people experience something really annoying, disappointing, and think that they may have had enough; as long as the break is not something harmful or bad to them and to their loved ones. Fox was in an emotional pain for so long that she became bored of her life, which made her disappeared for a while. But still; I find it very bizarre (and... May I say: inspiring?) that her method is to runaway to Antarctica.

There are many Beatles references in the story. One of them is the Here Comes The Sun; a song that is from Bee and her mom’s fave album. I could definitely relate to this; as I also very much think that the song really is a hopeful song. I remember one night when I was still in junior-high school years ago and seem to hate everything and not satisfied with life (on the account of puberty age!); I put the records on and listened to the song. It was so soothing that I found myself contemplating on being more grateful towards life. I still experience the same effect now that I'm much older. Well done, my favorite Beatle. This song is still, and will always be one of my favorite tracks from Abbey Road.


"My heart started racing, not the bad kind of heart racing, like I'm going to die. But the good kind of heart racing, like, Hello, can I help you with something? If not, please step aside because I'm about to kick the shit out of life."

- Fox, on unexpected opportunity of doing her passion again


The main character in the story - Fox - has a quite unique personality; she is witty, quirky, and a little unsociable lady. At the same time, she is also very ideal and passionate about architecture; not only about the subject itself, but also about the process behind the subject. She is enthusiastic about the creation of architecture; which makes her enjoy the 'crafting' part of it and gives her inspiration to produce novelty design ideas. The Twenty Mile House - her design that gets demolished - is one the first architectures with zero waste; designed using only materials from no farther than twenty miles. But inspite of her genius; she is rather silly, and has peculiar thoughts on things around her; which makes the character lovelier and heart-warming.

To be honest, I think the novel tells a sad big-blow life story of Bernadette Fox; and I found it rather weird to laugh when I read novels... But actually I laughed a lot while reading this. The author Semple told the miserable story of Fox in a heart-warming-ly funny perspective, in epistolary style (just like this story). It really is packed with real funny stuffs. I just recently found out that the novel will be adapted into a movie which will be released by the end of this year.

The last but not least... What I really learned from the story is: how important it is to have a passion in life. Why? Because it keeps you going. It motivates you to do more, to live life - eventhough life is disappointing (I still think there is no ultimate escape than to seek refuge to the Creator, but still, passion will make you even a better person). Passion could push you to the edge to expand your horizon. It gives your life a meaning, adds value to life. Fox should have hated architecture: her masterpiece gets torn down, her whole career is ruined, and she feels like a failure. But she doesn't hate it, in fact she misses it and takes another opportunity of doing it: that is because it is her passion from the very beginning. Which helps her to stand on her own two feet again. You can fail, then you could possibly fall, but you will get back up if you have passion in life.

And if you want to take a break for a while from your current life; Antarctica could be an option.

Image was taken from Google Images.

Book Review: Reclaim Your Heart

Life is a test, and it is never easy; even for the people who’d say they got what they wanted. Even for the people who’d claim they have tamed everything. Even for those who’d like to think they got all the glitters in the world. Comes in all kinds of form of painful and difficult - sometimes even beyond difficult - matters; the test pursues everyone. Not to mention you and I.

Each one of us faced different sorts of trial. As a human being, there always seems to be a time in our life where we felt like we were in our lowest point. It felt like we were drown in the sea; sank to the bottom of the seabed, without even knowing why. All we know was that we didn’t want it, we hated it, and even we cried; simply because we were drown. We were at the rockbottom. It seems like there was no way out of the situation. Everything around us was disappointing. We looked around and asked for help, but nothing or no one seemed to come around to give us a hand.

Step back a little to see the situation in a bigger frame: everything apparently started when we were occupied by the object(s) offered by the worldly world we live in. The dunya - world - has everything that we desire. These might be people or things; we loved them and seems like we couldn't live without them. We became so immersed to these objects, we grew dependant towards them. We developed an attachment to them, like these people or things were the air we breath. We worshipped them like there is no tomorrow. Though in the end, truth is they only made us suffer. They left us, leaving us miserable. Our expectations killed us. Yet we didn't stop. We continued to experience the same thing all over again, over other kinds of objects. Life in the world seems to be never enough.

With the general love definitions that we had in mind that are been flagged and worshipped by mankind through generations; we struggled to get what we desire, what the world had offered us; expecting false perfection. What is love really? There are many definitions and they seem to be alright, but it feels like they are lacking something: the genuine, everlasting concept of love. A definition of divine love which we will never find in this world. Not in poetry, nor in songs. So is it real love that we feel... Because if it is love like what they said... Then why disappointment relentlessly comes after disappointment?

Do we realize that they are only gifts? We just don't realize it yet. Why gifts? Now, do we get to bring these people or things with us when we die? Will they be with us forever? No. Simply because they are all gifts. Not only the nice thing, but the difficult thing is also a gift. People that we love, intelligence, richness, healthy body, good-looking face, talents, skills, you name it... They are all gifts given to us.

We should cherish a gift by being content of it, as it is a gift and therefore will be gone eventually. And because it is only a gift, shouldn’t we be just fine when it gets taken away? Why should we be attached to it when we know for sure it can be taken away someday? Was it really ours in the first place? Do we want to bet our whole heart on something that we know will possibly fail us? Do we want to lose our heart for something that we cannot rely upon? No, because it is only a gift; which means it should have only remained in our hands. It should not take over our heart, nor make us fear of losing it.

Let the gift go when it gets taken away, let ourselves detach from the gift. Detachment will help us reclaim our heart back from occupation of worldly world. Because it belongs to the One. The One who creates us and our heart, and gives us all these gifts. God is the One to be put in heart.

Could we find the message in the bottle? God knows everything even a fallen leaf (Quran 6:59), and even a fallen leaf has a purpose. Leaves have to fall to then become a natural mulch on ground, which keeps tree root comfortable in a certain temperature and moisture level. If a fallen leaf has purpose, then our problem must have had it too. We just basically need to find the purpose, which will lead us to glimpse just a little more of God. Every single tighten faith bond will empower us to grow into a better person. To have a different way to see a hardship. Because with every hardship comes growth. The recovering, self-healing bit would also be the time when we grow, with every bit of it to be the means to be closer to God. God gives these gifts simply as a test that is also a means to us to get closer to Him.

When we look back to what had happened in the past, everything start to make sense and we start to realize that nothing happens without a purpose; not even a broken heart, not even pain; we will eventually understand about the things that happen to us. God does not test us except with that within our capacity (Qur'an 2:286). We put the pieces back again, and everything start to make sense.

So why were we drown in the sea? Certainly; to get the pearls in the seabed.

It is only natural that as a human being, we look for something that we desire, something that we think will complete us. The only thing we didn't realize yet is that we were actually looking for perfection; in an imperfect world. And without doubt; we ended up being disappointed. From the very start, we knew for sure that nothing was ever meant to be perfect.


"Prophet Ibrahim studies the moon, the sun, and the stars, and realizes that they are not perfect. They set. They let us down."


And why is that? Because perfection is only in God; the One who made the moon, the sun, and the stars.

Beautifully written by Mogahed; it is a simple book about basic, core things with very deep, humble meanings, which tells about Islamic life concepts - simple ones that we're possibly already familiar with - that are often misunderstood. I might say that this is the kind of book that could really speak to its reader, especially when you are in a drown-in-the-sea situation (hope not! But if you are, I wish you to become stronger. And remember to get all the pearls). Just to think of the idea that everything comes with a purpose makes my heart lightens, puts my mind at ease.

A book given by a nice friend I know last December (give the person du’a please, will you readers?). If I could ever have the chance to meet or talk with the person again; I’d deeply thank him and wish him all the very best in life. I will inshaAllah be stronger and inert like an Yttrium.

Image was taken from Amazon UK.

Book Review: The Power of Doing Less

Another book review, this time is about productivity and happiness. As a person with meticulous and (sometimes) rather ambitious mind; I have an odd habit of making a list out of everything that comes to my mind - be it grocery shopping or a mere promise to contact him/her - which list the things that I have to do whenever I have the time. Believe me, I got more than 5 categories of long to-do list which I check regularly everyday. After all these times I just do the tasks without thinking twice, because I think I already have plenty on my plate. I was so used to it, and had never seen it as a problem.

Well, it is indeed not a problem. It's just that it's probably not the best way of living: having too many daily tasks means that you will spend too many times thinking about what task to be done next; every single time, and your mind cannot rest. And I don't even realize the importance of each of the task, I just care about ticking it off the list so that I will be satisfied. But most of the times; by looking at those long lists, my mind gets distracted while I do a task, which ended up by the end of the day I could not finish the task and felt exhausted already, and the worst is the to-do list not even ticked. The next day I will do the same attempt again, even in the weekend. It's like a never-ending loop, and it seems like 24 hours are never enough. After reading this book, I started to see it as something I have to think about.

So you got many on your plate; you must learn to do less. The simplest method that you'd better do is to categorise and filter. By categorising things or tasks, you get to filtered ones that are very important to the ones that are not. For instance; the tasks that you really love to do, the tasks you like to do, the tasks you have to do, and the tasks you hate to do (but have to do anyway). From each of these categories; you have to list all of the tasks and start marking the ones that you find very, very important to you and important to be done to the ones that you think can be eliminated. Be honest and most importantly... Be heartless. Omitting (not doing it anymore!) the task that are not important to you will free up your precious time, and so you get to do the things that you think more important.

The other method about how to do less is by making clearer objectives - or can I say 'resolutions'? - which is the part that I like the most from the book. This deep method will be useful even prior doing the method in the paragraph above. Before deciding to do less, you got to see the whole, bigger picture. What is it that you really want to achieve? What or who is it that you love? What or who is it that you have faith in? What is your purpose in life? The book has many questions that can help you see more about yourself. With these sets of question; you can reflect and start to understand what are the things that is important to you. If I may paraphrase what the author wrote, I'd say; making your own formula which you can reflect whenever you do a task. Nobody will have the same objectives, it is something completely you; because nobody is the same. When you do a task, ask yourself; does this task relate to my objective(s)? If it does not relate but you still have to do the task, ask again; how can I make this task relate to my objective(s)?


"Would I invest my precious time in this?"


After doing the analysis and reflection, the next step would be the easy one; - though may bring hard times - acceptance. You got to realize that every change comes with adaptation. You definitely will feel good about doing more of the stuffs you think the most important to you, but cannot deny that you will feel bad from not doing the not-so-important stuffs you usually did. It's a process and you will have to be persistent when doing it to feel immediate effect on your life. One thing that you know for sure is that you will be more focused by doing less. And hopefully; you will be happier. You will feel relieved that your precious time is well-spent; because you only do stuffs that are useful and important to you.

This was one of few books that caught my eyes when I first visited the (temporary) Central Library in the city. I was in the mood of reading something motivational and self-development-related. I found this useful and thought it'd be best to share it here.

As the wise people said... You will never win the race against time. So let's make peace with it.

Image was taken from Rakuten Kobo.

Book Review: Daddy-Long-Legs

This one is another story which illustrated children version I read when I was still a little kid. Being in the same childhood book rack as Little Women, I used to read it while eating or before going to bed, which made it ripped and now gone forever, only God knows where the book is now. I read this book a lot I still remember clearly the drawings which were illustrated inside. Sometimes I wish I would find the same children-illustrated book in a bookstore I visit, but then I think I don't have to. It is meant to be gone, and it is the absence of it that makes it more special now. This is by far my favorite novel, I read this for almost five times. The story itself is one of the world's classic stories, and has been adapted into many stage plays throughout the century.

Daddy Long Legs was written by Jean Webster, and published in 1912. The story is in an epistolary novel form, i.e. written as a series of documents. The one that I read is in Japanese-bookcover version. The book dedication really does make readers feel special, it is dedicated "To you". Another thing that I like most about this novel is the childlike illustrations - made by Jean Webster herself - complement the writing.

The story itself focuses on Jerusha 'Judy' Abbott, a girl from an orphanage who is offered an opportunity to continue her study in college, because of her writing potential. In return, Judy is expected to write a letter of her study progress and activities of daily life as acknowledgment every once a month to her financial supporter whom she never met. The only thing Judy knows about her benefactor is that the person is a male and is a very tall guy, she saw a glimpse of the man when he was walking to his car. And he is apparently a philanthropic Trustee of the John Grier Home, the orphanage asylum where Judy lived from when she was still a little. At first, Judy expects reply letter from him, but - despite her curiousity and sometimes emotional anger towards this situation - she always keeps on writing the letters even though she never gets any reply from the mysterious Mister. She always believes that the Mister reads her letters. She writes the letters with this image of the person on the other side: a rich old man with grey hair. She soon grows a daughterly love towards him as if he is her father.

Judy herself is a sunny soul by nature, she is poor, and silly, but eager to learn things and is very adventurous. She spent her entire 17 years inside the asylum John Grier Home, and her daily activity is only to take care of children in the asylum. So this scholarship really is a good fortune for her. Being sent out of the asylum to experience new life, Judy is feeling properly grateful with the opportunity. She soon meets Sallie McBride and Julia Pendleton whom she make friends with in college. At first, Judy feels hard, not because of the work and study in the college, but because of the play. She finds it hard to join the conversation that their jokes seem to relate to a past that everyone has shared but her. I find that I am the only girl in college who wasn't brought up on Little Women. (even myself; from thousand miles away from where she grew up and with different background culture as she was; was brought up with that story. Poor Judy.)

Like many other students, she begins to experience college life. And of course; the falling in love. She soon grows interest in Julia Pendleton's uncle, she calls him Master Jervie. She couldn't bear mentioning him in almost every letter she sent to the Mister benefactor. She said that he is such a sweet lamb, a socialist, a real human being (not a Pendleton at all), and she is longing for an uncle ever since. Master Jervie is a very companionable guy. It is right before the last letter only she finally reveals that her Mister benefactor, her Daddy Long-Legs; is actually the guy that she liked after all this time: Jervie. She doesn't know that all the happiness brought to her by Daddy Long-Legs was actually all things that Master Jervie had done until she was invited to meet Daddy Long-Legs to discuss something... Funny that the last letter in the story is actually the first love letter she ever wrote to a guy!

In the middle of reading, you'll find that Judy's personality is quite interesting. She is a very brave and cheerful girl. She is also witty and smart, has a good sense of humour with clever words. She takes the opportunity came to her as her chance to self-development, she isn't rebellious towards it despite the monotonous life in her past. She is also very optimistic and is a dreamer. Study in the college is not that easy, she sometimes flunks notes but then promises to study hard (the writer even got a funny illustration on this, haha). But she often changes her mind, sometimes she would be very realistic that she forgets about her dreams. And sarcastic. And silly. And has big curiousity. And often feels that she should be treated as grown-up. Surely at that age of Judy, girls are often confuse about things due to their puberty, but at times she shows that she is apparently naturally a young girl at heart who still much adores the excitement of today's fashion and style. For instance she yaps about silly stuffs on millinery shop in her letter.

Though adoring those which are being liked by girls those days, she doesn't seem to like to be drowned in it, she stands on being modest and humble. She still focuses on being a writer as her Daddy Long-Legs wished her to be, so she chooses books over those adorable things. She is young indeed, but is mature enough to understand that she is a grown woman that she can assure she could stand in her own two feet, that she herself is the one who can tell her what to do. I must show him that he can't dictate to me. No one can dictate to me but you daddy - and you can't always. That, and lots of references show that Judy is somehow very strong-minded and independent. These are I think making this story criticized as being too feminist. And like many other young girls, she is quite talkative. Awfully hard for me not to tell everything I know. I'm a very confiding soul by nature, if I didn't have you to tell things to, I'd burst. Haha.. I guess I understand very well about her personality. Well, girls should have, anyway.

The guy character (though there's no part of him writing or talking in the story), Master Jervie, seems to be a very nice person, he could act both as a father, a friend, and a lover. She writes very respectful to the man and at the same time doesn't hesitate to show her pure witticism which sometimes in a way sounds sentimental and sarcastic, sometimes blunt and silly. For instance a snappy question asking the Mister if he were bald or not. Or a silly unnecessary sudden statement concerning about citizenship, saying that a country would be tagged as awfully wasteful if they throw away such an honest educated conscientious intelligent citizen as she would be. I love the way she wants to be treated seriously but she apparently doesn't realize she demands it in a silly way..

College gets nicer and nicer. So excited about all these new adventures that I must talk to somebody, and you're the only one I know. I loved the way the writer describes about happy moments of school time through Judy's letter. Everything - even the sad and bad ones - seems to be joyful to be passed. It also interesting to see how Judy writes; it definitely looks like a diary of letters, and really reflects her personality well. The plot structure is an epistolary novel where the story is written in a form of letters or series of documents. There's also unique letter closing in every letter on the story (I thought of doing so too at the end of this post). At the end of the story, the last letter finally reveals its love side. I think this is the gong of the story, and the story would never be lovelier any other way.

In a very contented frame of mind (Hopefully so... Haha. Xoxo!),
Y

Images were taken from Gutenberg EBook and Forever Young Adult. I just found out that the first link (Gutenberg) provides an ebook of Daddy Long-Legs, be sure to visit and read!

Book Review: The Happiness Project

"When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down 'happy'. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life." (John Lennon)

It's been a while since I posted my last book review. I'm planning to do lots from now on, I will try to catch on with this blog as much as I can. Hope the reviews can be effective and give useful and helpful information to those who read them as well. To be honest, I was busy with work, that I couldn't find time to write reviews of some books I've read in between the works. Well I need to practice to write more spontaneously, and a lot faster I guess haha.

I was in the mood of looking for motivational, inspiring and moving stories or simply; words, when my eyes caught the very word on the book title 'Happiness'. I always seem to be curious about this thing, mostly about how to get it and how to manage it afterwards. Prior reading this book, I've always tried to track down what makes me happy. For example, at particular times when I felt happy, I wrote the moment down on a journal. I wrote how I was happy at the moment, but sometimes couldn't really define what it was. I just felt it, but sometimes when I happen to be in a similar situation again I'm not sure about how to get that happy feeling again. It's complicated.

Curious about the happiness itself, I bought this book and read it in between hecticness of the last few months. Reading the first chapters, I realize this book is just a kind of book I'm looking for. A self-growth-and-improvement book. To be honest at first, I thought this book might be boring, but I like the way the writer tells her story; she gives her own daily experiences in a warm and humorous way of how to be happy, which are surprisingly easy (but not that easy though..) to be applied within ordinary life. This makes the book interesting and engaging to me. She also excerpts some datas and quotations from literatures and researchs which makes the book sounded more scientific and trusted. This book is not about a perfect person who tries to gain happiness, this is instead about the writer who also has flaws - like many other human beings - throughout her life but keeps trying to be better to gain happiness. The book is getting more interesting once you go on to the next chapters.


So this is a book about how to be happy and happier, or simply to stay being happy for the time being. Sounds really simple, doesn't it. Yes indeed, simple yet very deep when we think of it as a method to live a happy life. In this book, Gretchen Rubin tries to pursue happiness in one year, to test her hypothesis that she could become happier by making small changes in her ordinary day. She hoped that she could change her life without changing her life by finding more happiness in her own kitchen. The project itself consists of some resolution points which the writer noted as her ways to happiness. I think the resolutions don't work only on her, it can also work for most people in general. It works on me though, for example, 'Don't expect praise or appreciation', 'Enjoy the fun of failure', 'Take time to be silly', 'Show up', 'Give proofs of love', 'Enjoy now', 'Sing in the morning', 'Be generous', 'Keep a gratitude notebook', 'Make time', 'Give positive reviews', 'Laugh out loud', and so on. Those small resolutions can boost my happiness even just for a little, to help make my day happier.

Rubin classified a span time of one year into twelve months - each with different aims - focused on every aspect of life; vitality, marriage, work, parenthood, leisure, friendship, money, eternity, books, mindfulness, attitude, and the last is accumulative efforts which believed by the writer will bring happiness. All the aspects each has derivatives; concrete ways to achieve the big picture of each aspects. On January, the writer focuses on vitality; how to boost energy before doing other necessary things and helping her to stick with the resolutions for the upcoming months. She suggests to: 'Go to sleep earlier', 'Exercise better', 'Toss, restore, organize', 'Tackle a nagging task', and 'Act more energetic'. Every resolution I read seem to be realistic whilst easy to be done. I knew these simple things could help make us feel good after we done doing it, but I didn't really realize that it could be a list of usually-ignored, small, daily routine tasks.

There are also some lovely words from the book. Some that I liked most are:
» The days are long, but the years are short. Each day, each phase of life seems long, but the years pass so quickly, I wanted to appreciate the present time, the seasons, this time of life. I see her point in this. Every moment in our ordinary day is rare and will not be happen twice, don't let the fleeting time blind us from its preciousness.
» Acting happy when I knew that my happiness would make someone else happy. True happiness means sharing.
» Tried to appear happy and especially to be so. Show enthusiasm for positive things around us. This is probably the most important thing when in social situation; tries to see and bring the positive, or give positive reviews instead of whining about particular things. Tries to reduce negative comments (though Rubin herself never manage to go an entire day without a negative comment), it will be a useful exercise and will help us feel happy too.
» The more I kept my resolutions, the happier I was. Being a better person - in whatever aspect - will help us to be happy.
» You can start small (putting your keys away in the same place every night) or big (repairing your relationships with your family). To be honest, I love how happiness can be achieve through small things.
» To be happy, you need to consider feeling good, feeling bad, and feeling right, in an atmosphere of growth. Being happy doesn't always mean feeling good. True and long-lasting happiness sometimes can only be achieved by hard-working effort which usually acquired by feeling bad.
» What's fun for other people may not be fun for you, and vice versa. Everybody's special in their very own way; that is why.
» Happiness comes not from having more, not from having less, but from wanting what you have. Try to be that person who is grateful from waking up in the morning to going to bed at night.
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I agree to what Rubin did. To some point, I think I'm the type of person who would think of happiness to be something that remains mysterious and surprising, not to be something ready to be grasped, or waiting on the shelf to be found. I want it to be something challenging to be found, that could make the finish line more joyous. But the happiness Rubin brought in this book is not that definition of happiness. This is more about how to stay happy, without changing our lifes. It is not about the 'goal' happiness, it is about the 'resolution' happiness. She makes a clear distinction on goal and resolution which I find very inspiring: You hit a goal, but keep a resolution. 'Run a marathon' makes a good goal. It’s specific, easy to measure success, and once you’ve done it, you’ve done it. 'Sing in the morning' and 'Exercise better' are better cast as resolutions. You won’t wake up one day and find that you’ve achieved it. It’s something you have to resolve to do every day, forever.

Anyway, we people should be happy. If the environment around you seems to be unsupportive and dull, still we have to try to find happiness there, or simply share the only happiness we got. I know this sounds cliché, I don't think I can do this either, but I want to try. Because one of the best ways to make yourself happy is to make other people happy; one of the best ways to make other people happy is to be happy yourself.

I'm glad I found this book on the shelf. Not many books I found that could actually speak to me like this one. So thank you, Gretchen Rubin, for the inspiring book. She also said that everyone could make their own happiness projects. And every one of it must be different (based on their background, religion, education, nation, etc), since people are each unique. I don't know but I started to think that if many people make their own happiness project (realizing what are the things that could make them happy in a good positive way) maybe we could make our own environment better and that means making the world a better place to live. Because being happy means sharing, be sure to be contagious when you're happy.

Image was taken from here.

Book Review: The Other Hand

To be honest, I was interested in reading this book because of its book cover (and a brief review at the back of the book, will get to that later). A single tree, surrounded with birds and some things. At first I thought this might be a cute story, or a story about natural environment. But after reading it, this apparently has nothing directly to do with those and is beyond my imagination of the cover. Indeed, don't judge book by its cover.

It also has an interesting brief at the back of the cover (which was one of the reasons I bought this book), which tells us not to tell anyone about the story after finish reading it. Yes, I kinda agree with it, it's a kind of story you have to experience by yourself. You will be drawn into the book as you go on reading it. Once you have read it, you'll want to tell everyone about it. When you do, please don't tell them what happens either. The magic is in how it unfolds. The book said so.


Hardships, come to everyone, often without any warning. Problems in this world could come from anywhere, from the smallest; troubled notion inside human's mind, to something big; like World War. Not many people could handle their own life problem, only people with bravery and willingness to fight that can hold on to it, and get it done. The character of Little Bee is quite unique. She's a little bit weird, but is also patient and good-natured. Her life problem have pushed her to be tougher and tougher each day, and have opened up her eyes; urged her to live the reality as human being in this worldly world. The same nature came to Sarah, who is physically different from Bee. But both are humans, with the same rights to live in the same faithful mother earth, only with different destiny.

There are many inspiring messages from the story, it's hard not to be drawn into it. One of them somehow even changed the way I think about people having a scar. Most people might think that having a scar is horrifying. Scar here doesn't always mean physically, it could also have an abstract mean to it. Having a scar doesn't mean your life was ruined to some extent of your life. It also doesn't always mean that you have experienced bad times, that you're such a sad story. It's definitely a sign, that you have survived from whatever that had came to you before. That you have passed the hard times you were facing. Not many people ready or brave enough to have scars carved either in their body or heart. So if you have a scar, you must have been tough enough going through whatever had happened in your life, you have to be grateful with it. It's not easy, though. But a scar; is never ugly. A scar means, you survived.

Tough humans; may look like a fragile glass from the outside, but is always a steel on the inside. Hard times, troubles, unfair treatments, violences, scars; all of it are only shaping them into unbeatable, stronger human being day by day. They could face everything that's been thrown at them, even death. While in another part of the world, some humans are just too greedy. That is one of basic human natures; never feel content about what they already have. The greedy attitude; somehow lead them to do anything to get whatever they want, even doing harm to other people.

"Wouldn't that be funny, if the oil rebels were playing U2 in their jungle camps, and the government soldiers were playing U2 in their trucks. I think everyone was killing everyone else and listening to the same music... That is a good trick about this world, Sarah. No one likes each other, but everyone likes U2."

Living in the same mother earth, sleeping under the same big sky, gazing at the same stars, breathing the same air, listening to the same music; why can't we people live in peace? Some might think of this as a cliché statement, but hey, no. Peace is not merely a song, a poet, or a propaganda. If we - human beings with a heart and fully understand about the responsibility as human in this world - think that peace or love is a cliché... Then what is left? What more could be expected? Will there still be a little hope for honest, fair humanity in this good old mother earth? Have we - greedy humans - accidentally created another kind of earth, the one that God never even thought of?

Book Review: Little Women

A girl. Yes, it is a very soft, simple word and seems to be unharmful. Something to do with flowers, sweets, songs, rosy cheeks, birds, kitties, lovely dolls, fine dresses, and all sorts of happiness. Well, I agree not all girls would dig those, these are only common worldly things to define a young girl. At least for this book.

I've finally finished reading Little Women, by Louisa May Alcott. I knew this old classic novel when I was still a little girl, we used to read the short version from the book full of illustrative pages our parents bought us. Now the book had gone, I assume the pages had been ripped and scattered and gone forever. We never remembered it for some time, until my sister bought the actual proper book from local bookstore, and later I found the second-hand book. The book is different from the book my sister've found. It's the first story version, the shorter one that tells a family story of one year. I somehow surprised that the first publication of the book was in 1868. Super old...

It tells us about March family; the sisters with their mother and father, which story taken in a year in the life when their father's away in the Civil War. The sisters and their mother work hard in order to maintain a happy and peaceful house, while waiting patiently for their father to come home. The story focused on the life of the sisters; their troubles and joys throughout the year in facing several life problems generally occured in lower-middle class families during wars in that era.


I assure people who read this story will grow sympathy for the sisters. Each sister has different and unique character, which then I identified were common personalities of young girls. The oldest named Meg, who is the prettiest among the sisters. She has a puppy dream of marrying rich guy and live the glory of luxurious life, and loves to be praised and admired. The second sister named Jo, who is a blunt, energetic, and tomboy girl, who happened to be the smartest. Her passion in writing leads her to start a career as a novice writer. She may be very tough, but on the other hand she is also quick tempered and careless. She is willing to sacrifice for people that she loved, although it often leads her to troubles. The third sister named Beth, who is a loving, caring, and shy little girl. She is a good caretaker of the house and is very dilligent and loyal. She's never loud about anything, but she thought about others all the time, that sometimes she forgot to think about herself. And the youngest named Amy, who is the most knowledgeably, talkative, but lovable little girl, who dreams of becoming an artist. She wants to be accepted as proper grown-up girl in front of her friends as well as her sisters, which makes her a little bit selfish sometimes. And these lovely girls have a thoughtful and cheerful mom, Mrs. March, whom they always called Marmee.

The sisters have both good and bad attitudes, but all of them are good-natured and humble at heart. They all would feel content just by being together with their mother and singing to songs. From the story, it can be clearly seen that both the father and mother brought up their daughters with nurtured love, patience; all are wisely given. Mrs. March really knows how to make the girls happy in spite of poverty they were facing. She helps their daughters to see, act, and live with humility and dignity. For instance; she teaches them with better lesson; when the girls failed or did bad habits, she admits to the girls that in the old days she also had faults or failures just like them, and then tried to mend it, and strengthened her will to fix it. Sharing the same experiences and how to solve it; that would do the trick. Let the sun go down on your anger, she once said to her quick tempered second-oldest daughter.

There is also a little experiment given by Mrs. March; she gives the sisters holiday a week long, without any daily house-working tasks to do. By the end of the week, the sisters starts to feel something's in trouble. Without the housekeeping works, all seem to be unfinished and in terrible conditions. The mother - who initiated the experiment - then comforts and reminds them about the important of routine works we do on daily basis, "Don't you feel that it is pleasanter to help one another, to have daily duties which make leisure sweet when it comes, and to bear and forbear, that home may be comfortable and lovely to us all?". I couldn't agree more, there's also a saying of this in my homecountry "bersakit-sakit dahulu, bersenang-senang kemudian".

Teenage might be the period of complicated and sensitive mind of young girls. Each of the sisters were trying to deal with this phase, while facing several problems of life. They learn how to cope with poverty at that time when their beloved father's away to the war. But a mother truly understands what her daughters need. Mrs. March is a very loyal and generous woman. She keeps her little daughters safe and good for their father. She wants them to be beautiful, accomplished, and good; to be admired, loved, respected; to have a happy youth, to be well and wisely married, and to lead useful, pleasant lives, with as little care and sorrow to try them as God sees fit to send.

I think a woman (or in this case a young girl) would probably has personality of the sisters as told in this book. Some are more dominant, some are hidden. And true, that all girls have their own castles in the air, containing all their rosy hopes and wishes for the future. It doesn't matter what personalities they might have or kind of castles they might own in mind, because they are basically come naturally to a young woman; based on the upbringing from her parents, surroundings, and society. What matter is how she tries to deal with the personalities and dreams she naturally had. How she is going to control the attitudes, balance them with her wishes, and nurture them wisely.

Another good point from the book is the message to care about one another. To live sociably means to live with other people, and of course start from the nearest; neighbour. People need to keep the relationship going at least with the nearest neighbours. It's good to know that they can be closest company and big help when needed. It is good to keep in touch and maintain their feelings. You will never know who will be right there and help you when in the future you get troubles. But of course we have to choose family first instead of neighbours. The bonds between each member in family stand upon trust. Rich or poor, we will keep together and be happy in one another. They know and understand all each other's strengths and weaknesses but still be the ones who will be right next to each other and love them the way they are, time to time. They care about each other, and that is what's important to a family.

I find the use of English in this book is fascinating, very humble and heart-warming. We could feel how classic this book is by just simply reading it. Also the story seems to be simple and true. All pretty things are delightfully described in the book, they are girly and old-fashioned at the same time.

In my opinion, the true message of this story is about being modest and grateful about the life that's been given by being content and enjoying every single moment, despite the sad things that happened in life. "Have regular hours for work and play; make each day both useful and pleasant, and prove that you understand the worth of time by employing it well. Then youth will be delightful, old age will bring few regrets, and life become a beautiful success, in spite of poverty". Another Marmee or Mrs. March wise-and-lovely saying to the girls, of how to enjoy life.

You, and I, and all (little) women in the world will grow a little bit older every single day, and soon to be a Marmee. Facing many changes in lives, experiencing another kind of sorrow and happiness; that surely will make us more human, time to time. "Leave these things to time. Make this home happy, so that you may be fit for homes of your own if they are offered you, and contented here if they are not. One thing remember, my girls; Mother is always ready to be your confidante, Father to be your friend, whether married or single, will be the pride and comfort of our lives".

Book cover photo taken from Jackie Magpie.

Book Review: My Life in France

Who doesn't need food? Please tell me if there's any, and I'll be doubtful that the person is a human being. Every creature - human, animal, plant - needs energy from foods in order to keep themselves alive. It is one of daily life's basic need. It is something that human being can not refuse, - especially when their stomach's empty - even a skinny supermodel on her strict diet would secretly eat crackers after the show. Or a person laying in the hospital bed in his coma, they'd give him infusion, a glimpse of hope towards a patient to keep him alive.


I bought the novel in an second-hand book shop in a department store in Ipoh, Malaysia in the time when my family visited my Dad. They sold books in very lovely price, my eyes strolled along some rows of novel titles, and then got captivated by this one; My Life in France. My sister would go studying abroad to France a week after that Malaysia visit, so I thought this would be okay for her. Without any further considerations, I decided to buy it. Previously I heard good responds from my friends of Julie and Julia, I haven't watched it yet though.

It's a story about Julia Child, an American woman who is passionate about cooking after moving to France. The book is more like an autobiography about her; as a cook, a teacher, and a writer, written by Alex Prud'homme. Her love of food started by the time she and her husband moved to the country with its delightful cuisines. It is exciting to read how she loved a country so much. She appreciated the cultures, she fell in love with almost everything; the town, the language, the markets, the people, and of course... The delicacy of French food. It's a book with only texts on every pages, but I could feel her prettiness through the book. I guess it's true that when people fall in love, they themself become a lot prettier to the other people.

The book tells the readers about her life, her food and cooking experience, and her efforts on familiarizing France cuisine to American people, especially cooks. She started to learn how to cook by the time she fell in love with the food tastes, and enjoyed it ever since. Her book (co-authored with Simca Beck Fischbacher) - Mastering the Art of French Cooking - first published in 1961 was telling on how to cook French traditional recipes. Later on, Julia had an opportunity to host a cooking programme on TV in America, called The French Chef TV Show from 1963 to 1973. She wrote several books about cooking in her late days.


I've never known that cooking would be this complicated, especially in making a cooking book. Each selected recipes been analyzed in the kitchen, been tested many times until the result became (almost) perfect. The process wasn't always smooth, sometimes it needed to be tested all over again if the taste went wrong or less perfect. Sometimes with another alternative ingredients or another utensils; to gain perfect combination. We can imagine how long will it took for only one recipe to be written with the most perfect approach of cooking. That was the way she worked on her recipes in the kitchen. Slow but careful approach. She said that she was the type of person who wanted to know everything about a dish- what worked or didn't, why, and how to make it better. There would be no unsolved questions in her master recipe. She would be glad to do experiment herself in the kitchen, even though it sometimes took a long time. She did boulabaisse, french bread, and another lots of french recipes (apparently there are lots of French words and phrases regarding recipes on this book. It's hard to remember, though).

Some French cooking techniques to be used to cook the recipes were modified to fit with cooking methods for American cooks, since her first book was targeted to American audiences. The Americans really want nothing but speed and magic in the kitchen, thus the French recipes needed to be modified to meet the American cooking manners. Julia noted; "Mastering the Art of French Cooking was something akin to my firstborn child, and like any parent; I wanted to be perfect".

Those days, Julia and Simca communicated using mails from several countries. They exchanged recipes, shared tips and tricks of recipes (to be tested on kitchen), and most of all discussed their book scripts through the airmail. Sending letters was popular back then, since there was still no internet around. Using airmail, senders have to estimate some time before sending out the letters regarding the process in postal agencies and sending time. This would make senders wait some times anxiously, without even knowing the mail being sent safely or stuck somewhere. It might took one to two months to finally get a reply from the recipients. Wonder if there was any kind of confirmation to senders about status of the mail they've sent. This is totally different from mail-sending system these days, where people can easily discuss something anywhere anytime, at the tip of their fingers. Time and places are not matter anymore. Internet generation wouldn't know how it feels like to anxiously waiting for an air mail.

She also did some French culinary documentaries and cooking lesson programme for American TV. They might be one of the few documentary records showing how food was once made almost entirely by human hands rather than by machines. Julia, who was first interested in audiences who were devoted to serious, creative cookery became a bit loosened regarding her cooking substances to public. As well as her first published book, the message of the programmes was to familiarize cooking to American people especially French cooking. It then became vary, recipes she presented at the show became a lot general. And it was fortunately a good timing. The show brought good responses, it was one of the first cooking shows in the world. There are many cooking programmes on telly these days (I can tell some of which broadcasted in Indonesia. Every channel has one cooking programme I suppose), perhaps this was one of the impacts of Julia's TV shows in the past.

"He was living link to the greats of the past, the kind of dedicated cuisinier that had so inspired my love of France and its food. And, like Curnonsky, Vergé could not have come from anywhere but France". During her days in France, Julia met a lot of people who were seniors and experts in French cooking. Some were her teachers back in her cook-studying period, some were friends of friends she knew at some events, some were chefs she met at her favorite restaurants. All of them expressed true genuine love for cooking. They were true chefs. One of them was Chef Vergé, a chef of restaurant Le Moulin de Mougins. "When I see some of the skinny little people in my restaurant pecking at their food like sparrows, I remember our village, where everyone ate heaps of sausages and pâtés and beef, and fish and pheasants, and geese, and venison, and chicken". He conveyed that the joy of eating should cherished and of course it should be enjoyed anytime hunger striked out. I agree to him regarding this (well, I'm a devoted eater!), however this should also be viewed in terms of health.

From my point of view, Julia and Paul Child was a ideal couple. Mr. Child, he was very handy and all. He was a type of guy that could be rely on in every situation. He took photographs, he painted. His style matched up to her. Most of all; he supported what his wife had did. I think she was very lucky to have such wonderful husband.


After the war, people in many countries travel overseas a lot. Societies started to see another bright sides of the world, rather than confined in their home country. Travelled a lot and learned new cultures, then started to realize that world is wide and big and has lots of interesting things to explore. She didn't seem to reflect the mainstream after-war effect liability. After many wars by that time, societies of each nations generally couldn't cared much on appreciating overseas' cultures, mostly people were blinded from patriotism for their beloved country. That was what made them gave less attention on other countries' unique cultures. It's fascinating to read an appreciation of other nation's citizen about another country; about France in the old time, the 1940s and 1950s, from a perspective of an American woman. She also appeared in Time magazine cover in taun 1966. This might merely be fondness of other nation's culinaries, but the bigger picture is that this can be viewed as an attempt of bridging cultural divide between France and America.

I recommend this book to my big sister who is now studying in France. Though this might not be any use, but anyway it's fine, right? Reading books in random topics which has no relation to you before? You would feel like travelling, but actually you don't travel. It's exciting.

I could feel the genuineness of her cheery personality through the words. I could also feel warmth and tenderness and sincerety of her. Her life was all about passion! She recalled that France was her spiritual homeland, where apparently it had become a part of her, and so did her to France. Beautiful details and all. But most of all what I adore from the book is the optimism of Julia Child of struggling to achieve what she really wanted. And of course; the messages. "Too get the proper results, one had to be willing to sweat over it; the preliminaries must be performed correctly and every detail must be observed".

To be honest, I'm still lacking cooking skill. However, am still learning though it might not be a significant effort. The way she told her story somehow encouraging readers to try some cooking stuffs and that cooking is fun. One of her famous books; From Julia Child's Kitchen was considered as if it was a private cooking school. "And the great lesson embedded in the book is that no one is born a great cook, one learns by doing. This is my invariable advice to people: Learn how to cook - try new recipes, learn from your mistakes, be fearless, and above all have fun!"

"The pleasures of the table, and of life, are infinite - Toujours bon appe'tit!" Oui, madam. It's true. :)

Photo source: Wikimedia (kitchen interior)

Sketching: An Ode to Burnt Orange, Pen, and Paper

Exploring ways to better understand things surround oneself, in times of traveling.